Your role as the primary caregiver for your aging parents may have been unavoidable. Studies show that the daughter that lives closest to a parent in need will typically be the one called upon for help. This is not really all that surprising, considering that women are still largely considered as nurturers. It is widely thought that about two-thirds of caregivers are women. Additionally, it only makes sense in most situations for the closest person geographically to take the lead on going to a parent in need. However, just because it is practical does not mean it is convenient. Rhode Island home care may be able to lessen the strain of being “the reliable child” though, providing care and companionship while you also manage other areas of your life that need attention.
Why one person of a multi-child family becomes mother’s keeper while the brothers and sisters go on to live their own lives free of the burden of care giving still remains a bit of a mystery. Certain studies suggest that, despite the repeatedly used statement, “I don’t have a favorite child. I love all my children equally,” that parents do indeed show favoritism, even if they don’t intend to. It also becomes clear throughout childhood and the adult years what the expectations of each child are.
Usually a daughter that shares similar values and attitudes as the mother is designated to the role of caregiver. It is likely assumed by all members of the family that she will be the one to care for mom or dad and take the lead on any family emergencies should the time arise. Despite this notion, a study performed by Dr. Karl Pillemar and Dr. J. Jill Suitor and shared by The New York Times, reveals that geography takes a stronger hold of who will bear the responsibility than gender.
While daughters are more than twice as likely as sons to be a caregiver, children within a two-hour drive of their parents are six times as likely to provide care as those that live further away. Essentially, if you live the closest you will more than likely have more of the care giving responsibilities. If you happen to be a daughter, than it’s almost a given.
Fair or not is up for you to decide, but the fact is that you are now the primary source of care for a loved one. If you have a career, children of your own, a spouse, a home, and any of the other numerous responsibilities life has to offer…then it can be a tough juggling act, no matter how much you love that person and want to be there for them.
With Rhode Island home care agencies you can be present, without letting other areas of your life go. Home care is an excellent way to help your parent stay in the home and be able to handle housekeeping, errands, and health concerns while still feeling that they have control. If your loved one lives with you and requires a higher level of care, respite care is available so that you can make sure you are caring for yourself, too.
Speak to a MAS Home Care of Rhode Island representative at 866-404-8325, or email RI@mashomecare.com.